How to Handle Criticism Appropriately

Two years ago I participated in training conducted by Jack Canfield, a co-author of the hit movie The Secret. In one example, he demonstrated how and why we respond to criticism.

He approached one of the participants and said,

“I’ve conducted a lot of seminars and lectures, but this is the first time I’ve seen such a stupid person among the listeners.“

Obviously, it hit the girl pretty hard, and she got upset. But Jack calmed her down by saying it was just an exercise.

Then he looked at her again and said, ”I’ve conducted a lot of seminars and lectures, but this is the first time I’ve seen a girl with green hair among the listeners.“ This time the woman laughed.

“Why are you laughing?” Jack asked her.

”Because my hair isn’t green.“

”Then why did you get angry at me the first time?”

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Criticism hurts only when we think of ourselves in the same way as the person criticizing us does. If we are confident in ourselves, if we know for sure that we’re smart, beautiful, generous and slim, then no matter what others say we will still feel good about ourselves.

People find criticism in songs, looks, jokes, and memes. We tend to find criticism where it most often doesn’t exist at all.

So whenever you feel upset because someone said something negative about you, just ask yourself this question: Do I really have that “green hair”? And look at the criticism as an opportunity to grow.

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Author Alla Klimenko